The topic of routines is hotly debated in parenting circles. Whether you are for or against a routine, there is no doubt a simple rhythm to your day can help you and your child thrive in these early years. No matter which side of the routine fence you sit on… there is one routine I HIGHLY recommend implementing, especially if you are struggling with short naps.
The introduction to a simple pre-nap routine..
This isn’t about long and drawn out habits to basically put your baby all the way to sleep. It is a shortened version of your bedtime routine. These simple, predictable activities before every nap can become a cue to wind your baby down for sleep; making naps longer and nights easier.
Do I have your attention?
Yes, this simple tip could be the solution to help your baby love naps as much as you do. So lets break it down…
Do I really need a pre-nap routine?
I would say yes, but if your baby settles calmly and sleeps well day and night, continue what you are doing - its working!
How do I introduce a pre-nap routine?
The key is consistency. Do whatever works for your family but keep it simple and repeat it before every nap. Your pre nap routine should be short, predictable and calming and be a maximum of 5-10 minutes in length.
The main elements to a pre nap routine would be:
Go to a dark room
Pull the blinds/curtains.
Turn on your white noise
Offer a calming activity - one lullaby, a cuddle standing over their cot whilst you stroke their face ten times, a short hand or head massage. Keep it simple and low stimulation.
When should I introduce a nap routine?
Consistent routines are great to start early - so you all get used to doing them and they become habitual. There is no definitive age when a nap routine starts to be beneficial. The thing to remember is, this is NOT about adding stress. Those early weeks at home with your baby are about adjusting to parenthood and getting to know one another. Don’t stress to introduce any routines when things are so new.
Beyond 12-16 weeks the benefit of a nap routine can really start to shine. Your newborn may struggle to recognise day and night and just sleep when their body needs, but beyond 3-4 months babies regulate their circadian rhythm and can settle into a routine positively.
If your baby is older than this, worry not, it is never too late to start a pre-nap routine! Even on the 2-4 year olds this can be a great way to help them hold onto a nap as long as possible!
Why is my nap routine not working?
If the simple calming activities you have chosen for your routine are calming baby down so much they are zoning out, start falling asleep or result in baby asleep you are doing too much. Your nap routine is not about getting your baby to sleep. Instead this simple nap routine is about giving your baby signals that prepare them for sleep. It should act as a cue to go from go go go in the bright lights and activities to calming and preparing for sleep. If your nap routine goes on too long your baby may get bored, or get over tired. This should be 5 minutes in length and be short, sweet and calming.
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If you are struggling with short naps, the introduction of a simple, predictable and repetitive 5 minute routine before offering a nap could be the solution you are looking for.
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